May 18
10am-3pm
ROCKING S FARM OPEN HOUSE!!!
The entire community is invited out to meet us and our horses and see what we’re all about!
We will have student demonstration at 10am and 2pm, pony rides from 11-1, face painting and concessions to raise money for Saddlebred Rescue.
Bring your friends, family and anyone who loves horses or has seen our sign for years and wonders just what do we do “down at the end of that road”.
4141 Highway 93 NORTH
Helena, Al 35080
205-441-9490

Dear Delilah,
I am recently divorced and have a question for you. What do you think of a woman (or man) who openly dates a married person? My best friend has done it for quite a long time with several married men. She says, ‘there’s nothing wrong with it and it’s safe.’ She claims to have a clear conscience because she says, ‘she is doing nothing wrong.’ She has even been with husbands of our friends (unbeknownst to their wives, of course). What she chooses to do is none of my business but recently she introduced me to a man that I now know is married. I want no part of this as a permanent arrangement but have to admit it is exciting. What do you think?
Wedding Band of Cheaters

Dear Wedding Band of Cheaters,
Your salutation, ‘Wedding Band of Cheaters’ pretty well sums up my feelings on the matter. Cheating on a spouse is adultery. Having a sexual encounter when you are unmarried is fornication. If you are a Christian who believes in the Bible you must also know it’s not rocket science to know it is wrong. In my opinion there are no excuses for a man or a woman to commit adultery and there are no excuses for a single man or woman to deliberately and knowingly have a sexual relationship (casual or serious) with a married person.
I question your friends morals and have great concern for others she calls her friends. It seems she has little or no respect for them (or herself, I might add). It appears she has turned her addiction of fishing in the ‘married’ pond into a game. Everyone loses in her so-called game, including her. The families suffer especially if there are children, friendships suffer and if she has children they are watching and taking lessons from her.
I say to you, if you haven’t already begun this dangerous activity then don’t! Show more class and pride than your friend. Consider yourself above this behavior and let your friend know as much as you care for her you do not condone this type of activity or behavior. What do I think? I think it’s shameful!

Dear Delilah,
How do I control a man who spends every waking moment searching for junk (as I call it) to store in or around our home. He cannot pass a yard sale or a garage sale without stopping and digging through their discards.God forbid he should happen by an Estate sale. Our yard looks like ‘Samford & Son’ and our home is beginning to look like someone featured on ‘Hoarders’. It’s getting to the point where I cannot clean our home because no matter what I do there is always something out in the open that everyone can see. It’s quite embarrassing especially when we have friends over or the kids want to invite some of their friends over to play or visit. His family has always made excuses for his behavior by saying, “This is nothing. You should have seen his room growing up as a child. He’s always been a collector. Who knows, one day he may hit the mother lode.” We’ve been together for over fifteen years and this habit of his has only gotten worse with each passing year. Please, help me… I’m,
Drowning in Junk

Dear Drowning,
What you have described may be a serious issue that his family has disregarded and is treating as if it were a hobby. Hoarding is a serious addiction comparative to any addiction a person may have. Hoarding is one of the more difficult addictions to face and overcome because it can be construed as a hobby of sorts where people are enjoying the art of collecting things that they feel are valuable or desirable. I can feel your frustration and understand where you would be embarrassed and hurt that he seems to be dedicated to his unusual vice. If you feel you cannot talk to him using his ‘collection’ of things as an example then I would recommend you go on-line or even look in the telephone directory under addictions and call for assistance before this gets so serious and overwhelming that you find yourself and your family literally walled in by his ‘things’ or worse literally crowded out of your own home. You may want to ask his family members their thoughts on his behavior but do so with kindness and with concern as opposed to judgement on his character or his mental stability. I pray you find the help you need.
Delilah

Dear Delilah is written and founded by Delilah K. Fondren. Write to Dear Delilah @ deardelilah01@yahoo.com or PO Box 42, McCalla, AL 35111